Writing your own wedding vows is an essential for anyone who wants to say something special, romantic and meaningful to their soon-to-be spouse as they stand together at the altar. But writing your own wedding vows can be intimidating, especially if you’re not much of a writer in the first place. The following 6 tips will help you write wedding vows that you can be proud to say on your wedding day.
Tip: Talk with your partner about the tone/format you're looking for
Make sure you talk with your partner about what tone you’re both going for with your vows. You don’t want to write silly, humorous vows only to realize at the altar that your spouse has written something completely serious and romantic. Get on the same page in regards to how serious the vows need to be, whether some humor is okay, and whether an alternative format—such as a song—is acceptable.
Tip: Consider making promises
Wedding vows are all about vowing to love and cherish someone forever. One way you can do that is by promising them something, such as promising to always lift them up when they’re down or promising to stand by their side no matter what the future brings.
Tip: Bring up a special past memory
If you’re struggling for things to say when writing your own wedding vows, look to the past. Consider bringing up your first date or your first kiss or the first time you moved in together. Bringing up a special past memory can be very meaningful when you’re saying your vows.
Tip: Practice saying them in the mirror
If you’re not a public speaker, make sure you’re practicing your vows in the mirror before the big day. The more you practice, the less nervous you’ll be; and when you practice, you can work out any passages that don’t flow smoothly when spoken aloud.
Tip: Look towards the future
When writing your own wedding vows, make sure you think about the future you want to have with your spouse. For instance, you might bring up looking forward to growing old together; or looking forward to the many adventures you’ll have after married; or look forward to starting a family. Marriage is meant to be forever, and when your vows reflect a vision for the future with your spouse in it, that will tell your future spouse that you really cherish them.
Tip: Don’t wait until the last minute
There’s a lot going on in the lead-up to any wedding, but don’t let your wedding vows fall to the wayside until the night before the big day. Make sure you’re working on them at least a few weeks ahead of time so that you’ll have them finished, finalized and practiced before it’s time to say them for real.
If you are planning on writing your wedding vows in the near future, make sure you consider the above tips to help you along the way.